Choosing Vacation Over Brother’s Wedding: Is She in the Wrong or Right for Standing Her Ground?

By Emma Williams

A woman turns to an online forum, wondering if she is in the wrong if she goes on vacation instead of her brother’s wedding.

Rocky Sailing

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She starts the post by explaining that she has never had a solid relationship. Due to their 10 year age gap they didn’t spend much time together. By the time she was able to develop her personality, he had moved out of their home.

Wedding Plans

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For the last two years her brother and his fiancee Sarah have been planning their wedding. Which was coming up sometime in September. That’s when Sarah asked her if she would be a bridesmaid.

“I Spent Thousands Of Dollars”

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Though she felt Sarah had only asked her to be a bridesmaid out of courtesy, she still took the position seriously. A few weeks before the post she finally managed to save up for the $800 dollar bridesmaid dress. But in the last two years between group outings, parties, dinners, lunches, and clothes she spent thousands.

“We Became Close”

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Eventually, she and the girls in the wedding party became extremely close. She quickly became excited for the wedding as the wedding date approached. Looking forward to finally getting to take part in the ceremony.

Dropping The Ball

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At the time the post was made, she mentions Sarah had recently become close with her brother’s wife, Becky. Then the week before, Sarah dropped the ball that she no longer wanted her as a bridesmaid. Preferring if Becky would take her place.

Heartbreak

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It broke her heart. But since it was Sarah’s wedding she felt it was not her place to tell Sarah how to run it. So she said it was fine. Afterwards she went to her brother’s house to pick up the bridesmaid’s dress she paid for to see if she could return it since it was within the time frame.

This Isn’t A Giveaway

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When she showed up to their house, Sarah was appalled. She stated that Becky was going to wear the dress she bought instead since they were the same size. She said that was fine, but that Becky would have to pay her the $800 she spent on it.

Money Troubles

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Sarah told her that Becky can not afford it. That she should just be nice and let Becky use it, saying she can keep it after the wedding. She explained she was not going to just give away the dress nor did she plan to use it after the wedding.

Compromise

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Her brother and Sarah both tried to “compromise” with her. Saying she could be the “assistant flower girl”. She felt offended at the offer turning it down. Insisting, they then claimed Becky could pay her $250 for the dress. Again, she said no, taking and returning the dress.

Disrespect

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She told the both of them that she understood it was their wedding. But they were both being extremely disrespectful towards her. She said she did not need to be dealing with that. That she would not be attending the wedding at all after finding out her co-worker had an extra round trip plane ticket to Miami.

Going To Florida (?)

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This is where she asks readers if she would be the jerk. As she would be in Florida for the week of her brother’s wedding. Her brother claims she is being childish while her mother tries to not take sides.

Update

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In an update, she lets out that Becky found her post. After a heated argument it was mutually agreed she would definitely not be attending the wedding. With her brother and Sarah not comprehending that it wasn’t over the dress, but the disrespect. Though her mother hasn’t outright said whose side she’s on, her mother paid for her hotel for the trip. Having an amazing time without feeling guilty.

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