Attracting Danger: Beware of the Toxic Traits That Deceptively Lure People In

By Krystal Brown

Toxic behaviors and traits can have a devastating impact on our lives, both personally and professionally. They can damage our relationships, self-esteem, and mental health. We’ll take a closer look at some of the most common toxic behaviors and traits. We’ll also discuss how to recognize the signs of toxicity, and how to protect yourself from its harmful effects.

If you think you might be a victim of toxic behaviors or traits, it’s important to reach out for help. Talk to a trusted friend or family member, or seek professional counseling. There are also many resources available online and in your community. Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. You don’t have to tolerate toxic behaviors or traits in your life.


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They like to think they are better than everyone else. They must always be the center of attraction all the time. Most people fall for these kinds of people because narcissists tend to be very charming and charismatic, and if you are overly obsessed with sophistication, you tend to be a victim.

Mean Girls

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These types of girls are usually very popular and are the dream girl of most guys. However, they are known to derive pleasure from hurting others. They cannot stand a rival and are always the first to spread the latest rumor or gossip.

Overly Jealous

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Overly jealous people tend to be insecure and territorial. They are concerned about losing you or having someone else take your place. They keep accusing you of lying, flirting, or having feelings for other people. They keep tabs on your every step and check your online accounts, email, and smartphone. You get cut off from the things you enjoy, friends, and family. They make an effort to regulate your appearance, movements, and interactions. They give you the impression that you are entrapped, constricted, and guilty.


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Judgemental people have so much drama which can look like fun for some people until it comes to bite them. Criticism and intolerance are traits of judgmental people. They hold themselves and other people to strict standards and expectations. They believe they are in a position to judge what is ideal for you and the way you should live. They keep pointing out your shortcomings, errors, and vulnerabilities. They make you feel incompetent or inferior by making comparisons to other people.


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It is common to hear women say they fell for a man because of how authoritative he was. They love controlling men because somehow it makes them feel secure. While it is true that authoritative men may command respect and fear from other people, they often don’t know the tilting point, and what was fun and attractive for their women becomes torn in their flesh. Controlling people, men or women are toxic and need to be avoided by all means. They often impose their values and rules over everyone else and demand compliance.


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At times it is difficult to separate manipulators from genuinely nice people. Manipulators are crafty and dishonest. They employ several strategies to take advantage of your emotions and actions. To get you to believe what they’d like you to believe, they tell lies, distort the truth, leave out details, or exaggerate facts. They attempt to bribe or intimidate you through flattery, gifts, promises, or threats. They leave you with a sense of indebtedness, that they are doing you a favor, or that they are superior to you.

Argumentative People

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Argumentative individuals are confrontational and combative, often arguing for their own sake or to prove a point. They never admit mistakes or apologize for their actions, and challenge others as if they are personal attacks. They turn conversations into debates or fights, making others feel like they are always wrong, in trouble, and at war.

Broken Men

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Some women are often drawn to sad and lonely men because of their natural wiring to be empathetic, but watch it, broken men can be very toxic.

Broken men have been deeply impacted by past traumas, resulting in unresolved issues like depression, anxiety, addiction, anger, trust, and low self-esteem, which can lead to unhealthy behaviors like self-harm, substance abuse, violence, or infidelity. They may push or pull individuals based on mood swings or fears, making them feel like a therapist or victim.

Overly Needy

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Clingy people are toxic and with time they will drown you in their quest to feel better themselves. If they always run to you for their happiness, validation, and happiness, then they are overly needy. These types of people demand constant attention and unending reassurance from you.

In the beginning, it can look fun and you may even feel valued, but with time, their incessant needs can wear you down, especially when they are not big on reciprocating.

The Dominant Type

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Most people confuse dominance with self-confidence. No. they are different. Self-confident people are not dominant. They are simply people who believe in their worth and do not sustain an over-bloated sense of their value. 

On the other hand, dominant people are aggressive and assertive. They always like to be in charge, make the rules, make the final decisions, and often like things done their way all the time.

Daddy and Family Issues

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Being a daddy’s girl or mommy’s boy is cool as long as it is not abused. When you are with someone who always talks about their parents and families, then watch it. They are likely to always want things done the way it is done in their family. It is always “This is how daddy did it.”